Getting it Right In the same way that children don’t come with an instruction manual, neither do grandchildren. The most significant way to get grand-parenting right is to constantly remember ‘I am not the parent’. Behaving as though you are a grandchild’s parent – and especially that you know better than their parent – is the biggest recipe for getting it wrong. How we brought up our kids is unlikely to be the way they’re doing it. In fact, parenting has changed significantly since your hands struggled with nappy pins. There’s now a lot of wisdom for parents to tap into, even if it does not match your own. Things need to be done as the parents say they should be, which sometimes requires some biting of the lip.